Mission Control and Kinky Salon co-founder Polly Superstar is the guest speaker on Expanding Mind on the Progressive Radio Network.

In this interview, Polly discusses her background and involvement in the fetish community, the impetus of Kinky Salon, and the creation of Openly and why it is better than Facebook. She also discusses polyamory, modern relationships, fear, procreation, instincts, and Peepshow Mini Golf.

Give it a listen HERE.

Our ally of the month for October is Pepper Mint. Pepper has been a local activist in the bi, poly, gender, and you-name-it scenes for many years. Pepper is a local polyamory organizer, educator, and social theorist. He writes about polyamory, organizes events including Love Triangle and Poly Speed Dating, and teaches non-monogamy workshops with his partner Jen. Pepper loves to go out to sex parties, Mission Control, the local dungeon, and goth clubs. You can read his writings at www.freaksexual.com.

What draws you to Mission Control?

P: I know everyone says this, but I’m going to say it again anyway: the two best things about Mission Control are the great people and the friendly atmosphere. There is a large rotating cast of characters, some of whom show frequently and others who pop in from time to time, ensuring a different party each time. I love that I can show up, meet some wildly dressed people, and have some great conversations with them.

I really appreciate the Mission Control tendency towards social engineering. The social space of the MC parties is consciously designed, and continually and creatively evolving. Sometimes this means following people’s tastes, such as the recent addition of a cross in the kink room. Other times it means doing some ongoing work, like the purposeful work of introducing new people and helping them adapt to a sex party atmosphere.

What are your thoughts about sex-positive community events?

P: I am constantly asking myself this question in regards to my own polyamory organizing: do we actually need polyamory events? What purpose do they serve? Can folks get along well enough just by meeting cool people in the bay area?

I’ve decided that it is crucial to hold this sort of event, especially as a landing pad for new folks. Sex-positive people of various sorts can be isolated, lacking support or connection with others like them. When we hold rowdy fun events and invite them, it provides a starting point for exploring the amazing sexual underground here. In order to draw people in, it’s very important that the MC events and my own events have a visible public presence: websites, announcements, flyers, and so on.

For those of us who have been around longer, coming together in numbers is a celebration. We get to see new people and meet old friends. We party it up in a rarified atmosphere where others are not surprised by our sexual proclivities. We get to do things that you can only do in large groups, like filling a room with writhing bodies. It is incredibly valuable. In the last year I’ve rediscovered just how much fun this scene can be, and this prompted me to become a Mission Control Alliance member.

You are so active in the poly/kink community.  Tell us what is new for you?

P: It’s hard to judge, but I think the sex-positive community in San Francisco has been growing in size. In my own polyamory organizing efforts, I have been moving from holding smaller dinners and discussions to larger social events. I am particularly proud of Love Triangle, a non-monogamous goth/80′s dance club night that has been averaging two hundred people. I’ve never seen so many polyamorous people in one place before!

I have also been very excited about our growing Poly Speed Dating events. The last one was the largest ever, and a lot of people walked away with some good prospects. But I’m looking to hold even larger events. I’m hoping to put together a polyamory/nonmonogamy conference in San Francisco in the next couple of years.

Author, blogger, and sex-positive pundit Violet Blue recently gave props to a couple of Mission Control projects, namely Kiss and the SanFranSexy magazine.

On her blog, Violet reviews a new movie produced by Private.com titled “An Open Invitation” which explores the ins and outs of non-monogomy and the swinging lifestyle. The movie follows the exploits of two couples which eventually leads them to the Upper Floor at Kink.com. The film utilizes real San Francisco couples. In fact, those couples are from Kiss.

And in another entry, Violet blue praises the new SanFranSexy magazine by saying, “Finally, a hip, warm and welcoming monthly magazine about sex in SF. Sleaze free, sophisticated, and more fun than a barrel full of sex kittens!”

Check out Violet Blues blog. It is certainly worth a book mark for anyone that wants to keep current on sex in the media and technology.

Next time you’re at Mission Control, keep an eye out for Madame Butterfly. Odds are you’ll find her happily tying up someone very lucky.

	Where are you originally from? Madame Butterfly: San Francisco, Born and Bred, there aren’t that many of us. What is your favorite thing about the City? MB: No one bothers you, pretty much no matter what you want to do, rarely do you get any shit about it from anyone here. So not only are you free to so what you really want, there is no impetus to go waaay out of your way to impress the masses as there is in other areas. No one cares what color your hair is so you can make it whatever color you really want even if that is fluorescent Green.  There is no need to outdo anyone or anything. What is your connection with Mission Control? MB: I’m an Alliance member and happy party attendee.
Madame Butterfly is an expert at tying ropes and making them
When did you first attend? MB: My first experience was Speakeasy Japan with Midori and Kiyoshi, I loved tying a couple people to the stipper pole and felt that the party was very well run and friendly. What is your main focus, talent, or skill? MB: I am a fiber artist who has been spinning yarn and knitting and weaving for years. I’m a rope top because I can look at a harness and know how to tie it easily. I can knit a sweater so tying up a person with one rope at a time is a piece of cake for me. I’m also a singletail top because I love the sound of a whip cracking and I’m just a teeny bit sadistic. What’s a typical day at work like for you? MB: Spinning rope, dyeing rope and taking care of the paperwork necessary for my small business. What is your favorite type of work? MB: Working with my hands. I tend to fidgety anyway so I usually have *something* in my hands all the time. Thank you for your support of Mission Control.  Do you have any words of wisdom for the sex-positive community? MB: You should always have *something* in your hands, in your mouth, in your…
Learn more about Madame Butterfly’s fantastic silk and bamboo ropes, check out here website: Butterflyrope.com		Madame Butterfly enjoys her work!

Check more people, places, and things that we love HERE.

Mission Control, located in the heart of San Francisco, is a socially conscious, artsy, intelligent, open-minded, open-hearted and sex-positive community. It is a place, a space and a people. Join us for an event in this place, rent the space for your own event and come together with us as people co-creating this community.

Who do I contact if I want to volunteer?

volunteers (at) missioncontrolsf.org

Who do I contact for other membership questions?

membership (at) missioncontrolsf.org

Who do I contact to rent the space or host my own party?

bookings (at) missioncontrolsf.org

Who do I contact for general questions?

info (at) missioncontrolsf.org

Where is Mission Control located?

We are located on Mission Street in the Mission District of San Francisco. But to find the address, you will have to become a member first. Membership is free and easy. Just go HERE.